My dear friends, I’ve always been self sufficient. Always. More comfortable when I’m helping others than when others are helping me. At work and at home, I still don’t know how to react to compliments. I despise annual evaluations, even if oftentimes they are good. I’ve been used and taken advantage of because giving is more my element. I never ask for favors. Ever. Right or wrong, I’ve been gauging the validity of my friendships by waiting for others to reach out to me. To invest. To take ...
THINKING OUT LOUD
The Inevitable Summer
Summer’s here! And so much going on! For one, I have an incoming high school senior, and you know that means college visits and a boatload of applications to check. (I have a very ambitious seventeen year old, who wants to change the world) And as if there’s nothing else going on in my life, we threw in moving to a new home while placing our old home on the market into the mix! It’s a plan that’s taking place one year too soon – but we found the perfect house on the lake and just couldn’t pass ...
Happy Father’s Day!
I had many fathers – a father, a stepfather, and two grandfathers. I saw and lived with them at different stages in my growing up years. Each one had something special about him, each one taught me invaluable lessons about life. From each one, I learned about different things – protection, support, friendship, respect, generosity, altruism. They all did their best to show me how much I was loved. Growing up, I didn’t feel as if I missed out on anything. Because even though I didn’t have a ...
Everything Inside Us
Every loss is tragic. But this week, two very high profile deaths pushed reality in our faces, forced us to voice out loud what we’ve known all along. Fame and fortune don’t immunize you against depression and mental illness. The darkness in our mind exists, no matter who you are or where you are in life. Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain were icons, trailblazers who paved the way for many of us. One opened our eyes to self- expression and independence, the other to relentless curiosity and ...
15 Rules for Loving 54
Stay Active and I don’t mean work out every day. Stay active in your mind, challenge yourself all the time. Be involved in the here and now. Stay Curious, question every single thing, every single time. Keep looking for answers and don’t stop until you find them. Live Clean – one of the reasons why you always tell me that I don’t look my age is because I didn’t start enjoying a glass of wine or anything alcoholic until I turned fifty. I also smoked for a couple of years until the lines under my ...
Your Life, Your Rules
It’s a quiet Sunday afternoon – the clouds are dark and the chill in the air is making me want to take a nap. This week’s travel was definitely one for the books – two days of canceled late-night flights, three days of delayed ones. I saw O’Hare airport and sat in the Admiral’s lounge every single day this week. After the second flight was canceled, I was ready to call it a week on travel. And yet, my persistent nature would not let me rest until I got to my destination. The universe was trying ...
